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Dating needs to be vulnerable. You just need to be wise as well. Hope deferred makes the heart sick. So to guard you heart, you need to make sure your levels of hope are appropriate for the season your Christian dating relationship is actually in. If this one is not on your list of Christian dating boundaries, something is wrong with you.
How far is too far? What are you aloud to do in dating?
How Far Is Too Far: How to Set Physical Boundaries in Dating Relationships | Project Inspired
Anything done with your spouse is good. Anything done without your spouse is sin. I get these two categories from 1 Corinthians 7: So the Bible does not give us a list of sexual boundaries we are not to cross in Christian dating. Rather, again, it gives us two big categories we are to stay within: Sexual experiences away from your spouse are sin. Sexual experiences with your spouse are good.
The trickier part will be to define what is an act rooted in sexual desire and what is an act that is simply a sign of affection. Read the article for more on this. This list of important dating boundaries for Christians could go on and on. When Christians abstain from sexual sin, I think the desire to connect through words is going to be even more intense.
But just like the rest of these categories, you must balance your commitment levels with the levels you are connecting at. Guard what you say if you want to guard your heart. Not everyone feels the same way about these three words as I do. But I believe these words should not be spoken in a dating relationship. I reserved these words for my proposal with my wife. I did that because I felt if I truly loved her, why would I wait to marry her?
Love is you saying you are going to be there for the person no matter what. They most likely assume that something physical did happen. Any of these people may know that either of you call yourself believers. What kind of message does that send to them? They will end up seeing you as a hypocrite. Boundaries and accountability are crucial! Have friends guys for guys and girls for girls who you are committed to being completely vulnerable and honest with and who will ask you the tough questions about your purity every week.
Too Much, Too Soon? Setting Emotional Boundaries in Dating
And when you set boundaries like having a curfew for dates, not being alone at night, etc. You should also think back and think ahead. The point is to be prepared. Set your boundaries and bring other people into them to help hold you accountable and to confess to when you mess up.
Set boundaries, probably even more strictly than you did when you were dating! For everyone I know who is married, sexual temptation only got worse once they got engaged. And you still have a duty to protect each other and encourage each other to pursue the Lord. And crucial in these boundaries you have with each other will be accountability. Go on double dates to minimize the temptations of being alone. Also, shorter engagements can help with this. Most weddings can be planned in months.
5 Christian Dating Boundaries
Not only does God completely forgive us, but He also completely redeems our mistakes. Nothing is too big or too far for Him to make you new again. When I broke up with my first boyfriend, I thought my life was ruined. My mistakes in that relationship are exactly what God has chosen to use in my life! He allows me to write books and speak around the country about eating disorder recovery and how to have healthy, God-honoring relationships.
Those two things that I thought disqualified me? Now that is redemption! You will stand in awe at the way He redeems it all. You must be logged in to post a comment. This is literally the most beautiful thing I have ever read.. Real, to the point and yet so encouraging.
The Teaching Ministry of Mark Ballenger
Good Job Tiffany and God bless. Posted by TiffanyDawn on October 4, at Posted by bellarose on August 29, at Thank you so much for this. I hope it can really encourage you! Posted by aolpassword on August 3, at Thank you for sharing this! And the last part was such a blessing!!!!: Posted by TiffanyDawn on August 14, at Praying for you as you follow God even through the confusing world of dating!
Sorry, just the latter really perplexed me… Anyone else feel that way? Posted by TiffanyDawn on June 15, at Oh that is such a great question! On 4, I think our biggest takeaway was that getting too physical in dating can hurt your relationship or trust, even if you end up married down the road. That was eye-opening to us! Does that make sense? So in this example, if you started with just giving each other a quick hug, then down the road you could add in hand holding, and further down the road you could add in cuddling.